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But, it actually works pretty well when one is improv-ing and one is enslaved, because the improv-ing one can hop over and visit the enslaved one, and then they can switch roles six months later. I’ve been happy with the records that I’ve made, and I loved both Dresden Dolls records, and I thought that my first solo album was pretty killer, but this is…this feels…This feels different and more special because it really is a record unlike anything that I’ve done before, and also, it’s a record that really is a piece of art created in the studio, as opposed to just documenting of a live band, which is sort of what it felt like with the Dresden Dolls, you know? They were great, but if you had seen the band, it was drums and piano and a lot of energy, and you bought the recording and that’s what you got and you were very satisfied. I’ve never really put out a record like that before so, for me, it’s very exciting. I knew that I wanted to put a backup band together.
But this record has a lot of surprises on it, and it’s full and layered and beautifully, crazily produced by John Congleton, with a lot of input and programming from my band, who are all weird geniuses in their own right. I didn’t know who it was going to be, and I was just starting to think about it, and…I was in Boston with my ex-boyfriend Michael Mc Quilken, who I had originally met because we were going to collaborate on theater stuff together, and then we wound up dating.
Yeah, I think the hardest thing about being in a relationship like this is that none of the rules and the assumptions that seem to apply to everybody else’s relationships really work for our relationship.
So, talking to other people about it and expecting to grab rules and regulations from other people’s lives and relationships, which is the way most people do it— Most people who get married or have relationships kind of look around and say, ‘Well, this has worked for everyone else in the world. ’ And, you know, not to say that people who have day jobs and live together and do more of the ‘traditional’ marriage aren’t creative. But, we have to be especially creative because we don’t live together, we don’t even have a home together, and we both have lived the kind of lives up until this point where we prioritize our career, and so balancing all of that out, there’s pretty much no one I can ask and say, ‘So, how did you do it? So, you end up trying to find out for yourself, which is…
Amanda: Which is what most people’s normal relationships are. He has a vague idea, but his schedule is very, very improvisational right now, whereas mine is super strict.And a lot of Australians concurred, ‘Yeah, people in Byron Bay are just surfing and being stoned.’ They do not have…they don’t care. So, eight people, maybe a dozen people showed up, and they were all from out of town.They all drove two or three hours to Byron Bay, and no locals came. It’s really just like this lazy surfer-touristy town where no one was plugged in.There aren’t that many relationships out there where two people are just together all day, all the time, trying to figure out what to do with each other. And I have a feeling that’s just going to be a flip-flop, you know?Usually, both people have jobs and lives and touch base, so what we’ve learned is…the best manifestation of our relationship is when we can both work near each other, and touch base with each other, because just spending empty, open time with each other…can drive us nuts. Most couples end up fighting on vacation because they’re like, ‘Oh god! ’ Like, ‘We’ve been together for nine hours, and we’ve run out of shit to talk about, and we’re not doing anything! When he puts out the book that he’s writing right now, he’s probably going to have to go do things X, Y, and Z, and work around a schedule, but right now he gets to improv through his life, and I’ve got to be enslaved to the calendar. I mean, I’ve never actually thought that a record that I’ve made has been this good.
He’s working on a book right now that he had in manuscript form and draft form that he’s now typing up and putting into a real second draft, and we’re just looking at all of the parallels between record-making and book-making and how the steps are actually kind of the same. They sort of get what you’re doing, as opposed to someone who just has no clue about the creative process and you say, “I’m going off to the studio!